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Ask Amy: An undiagnosed medical condition leads to a marital breakdown

Dear Amy: I suffered an injury that caused internal bleeding. This gave me severe anemia, which I was unaware I had. I was unknowingly battling its symptoms of depression and anxiety before being diagnosed. I had no idea what was happening to me. I had no mental health struggles my whole life (I’m 45) until this medical condition changed my behavior considerably.

My wife of almost 20 years left me before I was diagnosed. After diagnosis, doctors were able to stop the blood loss. The anemia and its symptoms went away, and I returned to my normal self.

I was sure my wife would reconcile with our family after my diagnosis, but instead she said I was using the illness as an excuse for my behavior. She does not understand it was the cause. She doesn’t understand these symptoms went away once the illness was successfully treated, and believes I am permanently mentally ill. She believes the illness brought out my true personality, when that is not true at all. What happened was a complete accident.

My wife and family are my whole life. I never would have gotten this medical condition on purpose. We have a 4-year-old daughter who I am a great father to. My wife is throwing away our family and is trying to take me away from our daughter because I had a curable illness, which I no longer have.

How can I save my family from this tragedy?

Heartbroken: I understand that depression and anxiety are possible side effects of anemia, but you don’t note precisely what considerable changes in your behavior emerged during your illness. If this change in your behavior had a significant and direct impact on your wife and child, then

US Leads World in Health-Care Spending Yet Key Health Outcomes Lag, Study Says

(Bloomberg) — The US spends as much as three times more on health care per person as other high-income countries, yet residents are often less likely to visit doctors, according to a report that highlights poor returns for the nation’s large investment.

The pandemic has widened discordances between medical spending and health results in the US and the rest of the world, findings from the Commonwealth Fund study show. The only high-income country that doesn’t guarantee access to health care, the US spent almost 18% of its gross domestic product on health and related services in 2021. 

The report adds to a litany of indicting data from the US, where half of adults are worried about medical costs that sometimes force them to delay or forgo care, according to a recent study, and life expectancy of 77 years ranks 39th among all nations. One glaring problem is that Americans visit the doctor just four times a year, trailing most other wealthy countries, perhaps because of cost and a lack of practicing physicians, the authors said. 

The American health system “can seem designed to discourage people from using services,” they wrote in the report, US Health Care from a Global Perspective, 2022: Accelerating Spending, Worsening Outcomes. “High out-of-pocket costs lead nearly half of working-age adults to skip or delay getting needed care.” 

The US spends $10,687 per person each year on health-care programs and insurance, plus another $1,225 for household out-of-pocket costs, the research found. That compares to less than $4,000 for both components in South Korea, the lowest of 13 countries the group tracked, and just over $7,000 in Germany, the second-biggest spender after the US.

Yet Americans are seen by doctors less than half as often as people in the Netherlands, Germany, Japan and Korea, and the US has

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